Anal Sex-Getting Fucked (Bottoming)
The man who is anally penetrated is commonly referred to as the “bottom.”
The term refers to person on the bottom of the traditional missionary position. An incorrect assumption about the “bottom” is that he has to be subservient and has less power in the dynamic. However, both men, regardless of top or bottom during sex, can share equal power and pleasure. The mechanics of the sex do not have to dictate power dynamic.
It is important for someone who is interested in bottoming to understand his anatomy and be aware of his body during preparation and anal sex. Before getting fucked for the first time, get to know your ass so you remain in control of your body and enjoy the experience as much as possible.
Preparation includes making sure you are clean and ready to go before getting naked with your partner. Give yourself time alone in the bathroom with some lube, gloves, wipes, and an enema. If you use a disposable enema, first drain all the saline solution and rinse it out completely before filling it up with water. If you are new at bottoming or particularly tight, use slightly warm water to help relax and open up your ass.
Use a gloved or ungloved finger with enough lube to generously cover the tip of your finger and slowly enter your ass in circular motions. It is important to always do this step to see if you are clean. If you are not clean, take out your finger, wipe it off using a wipe. Put some lube on the tip of the enema bottle and gently squirt a small amount of water into your ass; this can be down with one short squirt. You can insert the enema into your ass while bending over the toilet, count to ten, then gently sit down or squat over the toilet and let the water out. Repeat this process until the water looks clear. Then use your gloved or ungloved finger with lube to check yourself again. You may have to repeat this process several times. You can use your finger to help clean yourself out too. When you are cleaned out, use wipes to clean your ass and finger. Then take a long hot shower to make sure your whole body is clean.
Take this cleaning time to mentally get in touch with your body and how you are feeling emotionally. This process should help relax and open your ass up for penetration.
Diet and general health can impact how your digestion process works and how easily it is to clean yourself. Heavy consumption of dairy products, greasy food, sugary foods and protein supplements can make the cleaning process more difficult. Drinking plenty of water is helpful. Daily use of supplements such as probiotics and Psyllium can help make it easier for you to be ready for some hot fun in a shorter amount of time.
Practicing With Yourself
Before letting another man explore being inside you, try it out for yourself. After you have cleaned yourself and showered, try penetrating yourself with generously lubed fingers or a small dildo. First masturbate yourself until fully hard; this arouses your whole body. With a circular motion, enter yourself and slowly feel what its like to be penetrated. Continue masturbating and imagine that another hot man is behind those fingers or the toy. Feel the sensations of your body and experience how your sphincter muscles clench and open as you squeeze to make your dick hard. Find the rhythm of your body and know what brings you pleasure.
When the time is right to let another man fuck you, make sure you are clean and ready…and relaxed. Discomfort during anal sex often happens before the bottom is clenching his sphincter muscles and not relaxing to let the top’s dick inside. Because all of our anatomies differ, there is no one magical position that will be best for every bottom. However, the bottom should always remain in control over his body and feel free to communicate with the top about how he is feeling.
Before beginning, we encourage men to consider using condoms to prevent STDs-and to make that decision together.
The top is encouraged to rim and or gently finger the bottom’s ass as they kiss and jack each other. This keeps the arousal level and connection high, which may contribute to helping the bottom relax. The top can put generous amounts of lube inside the bottom’s ass. The bottom is encouraged to be in a position in which he has control to ease his ass down or back against the top’s dick. Doggie or being on top gives the bottom the most control and helps to naturally open his ass.
The bottom can hold the top’s generously lubed dick and with slightly circular motion ease himself onto it, stopping along the way to take deep breaths and keep jacking himself to maintain arousal. This may take a few starts and stops as the bottom gets used to the feeling. Once the top is completely inside, the bottom can continue making small circular motions with his ass and backing up against the top’s dick. Slowly, the top can start to begin to move an inch out and slowly back in, doing this until it feels good for the bottom. Apply more lube to the top’s dick as needed. The top and bottom can begin to find their rhythm and in a short time, the top can begin deep fucking. The bottom should keep jacking himself; staying aroused enhances his pleasure which keeps him relaxed and open.
In addition to feeling close to a top, a bottom’s pleasure also can also be derived from stimulation of his prostate, which is about the size of a walnut and found about 2-3 inches inside his ass. Massaging a bottom’s prostate with fingers or a penis will bring him immense pleasure.
If a bottom ejaculates before a top, he may immediately notice the dick in his ass does not feel as pleasurable. Some bottoms prefer that a top slowly pull out at that time and others may be able to continue letting the top fuck. Each bottom needs to know his body and communicate with his partner what he needs.
Make it Safer
The top can wear a latex or polyisoprene condom to help prevent STDs including HIV.
If latex condoms are used, a water based lubricant should be used to prevent condom breakage.
Correct use of PrEP or TasP by the men can help prevent HIV if either is HIV negative.
A top should pee soon after fucking regardless of whether a condom was used. This cleans out his urethra and helps prevent STDs.
About Poppers: Some bottoms may use poppers (alkyl nitrates) to help them open up during anal sex. Poppers cause blood vessels to dilate, decreases the bottom’s blood pressure, and increases his heart rate. Use of poppers can numb a bottom to discomfort which can help him get fucked deeply more quickly. However, the method described above allows the bottom to be in touch with his body and to know how fast and how deep to go. The numbness brought by poppers may result in a bottom getting fucked deeper or faster than his body is actually ready for. This can result in discomfort, pain, hemorrhoids, or anal bleeding after the fucking is done.