Group play is a part of some guys’ sexual repertoire. There are many types of groups and ways of connecting with them. Some groups are formed through online connections; in this case, none of the guys may have ever met before walking into a room to fuck together. Other types of groups may include friends or buddies who have other ways of connecting besides sex.
Groups can be fun. They also can be overwhelming for some guys. Having sex with just one guy can be intense, but walking into a room of naked guys is a lot of stimulation and temptation. Consider going with a bud to increase your comfort.
Before joining the group, check in with yourself regarding your motivations and sexual boundaries. At the group, there will likely be guys engaging in sex that may be outside of the bounds that you have set for yourself. Figure out what you are in the mood for and what your boundaries are regarding safe sex. Take condoms even if you don’t think you’ll need them; it’s better to be prepared. Lube and a small packet of wipes may also come in handy.
There is no way to know the STD status of any of the group members or what their sexual or drug taking behavior has been in the recent past. You are encouraged to not trust that everyone there is in alignment with your specific set of sexual and/or drug taking behaviors and boundaries. You are responsible for taking care of your body and making decisions about what kind of sex you will have. This requires that you stay alert enough to communicate your needs to the other guys.
There may be people in the group whom you are not attracted to or who may not be attracted to you. You may see a guy you’ve had a crush on having sex in the corner with a group of other guys. Guys you used to date, coworkers, or other people in your social network may be there. Consider all these aspects before walking in the door so you are mentally prepared.
It’s okay to take a break after playing awhile. Walk around or move where you are sitting to get some new perspective. Watching can be fun. Some guys delay cumming for a long time so they can keep playing for hours. Other guys may cum quickly and leave or cum and then chill out for a while before jumping back into the fun. Keep checking in with yourself to see what feels right for you.
Once you are finished and have left, check-in with yourself again to see how you liked the experience and how you feel about yourself. If you engaged in any sex that you are concerned about, reach out to someone your trust, if possible, for support. If you are HIV negative, not on PrEP, and let someone cum in you without a condom, consider contacting your doctor or a local LGBT community clinic, if available, to get PEP (post exposure prophylaxis) which can help prevent HIV. Consider getting tested for all STDS in 7-10 days.